One full weekend

It’s odd how a feeling can grow. A first tentative thought leads to hesitation, a joking remark to a casual ‘not-about-us-discussion’  and slowly a mutual suspicion grows into an assumption. We talked about getting married this weekend. As far as I can tell we’re on the same page. Levelheaded, not overly fairytale romantic, and very serious about the commitment. It was a big relief.

What happened since the last post:

When I sent the beloved the information I found on direct consular filing for a green card, he responded with “Now all we have to do is get married ;)”. Which gave us both jitters, but indeed seems to be one very vital step. Hence the talk with which I opened this post. As an added incentive  I found a little gem online when I went to find out whether marriage would also benefit the beloved. It does. Apparently, this country’s laws allow a registered partner or a spouse to naturalize without having to give up their own passport.

Giving up his American passport has (understandably) never been something on which the beloved was very keen. So, when I told him about this convenient rule, he was very happy.  We talked some business, which was remarkably painless. I found out that the process of naturalization usually costs about a year. We wouldn’t be able to start the process until after having gotten married. Getting married comes with a recommendation to request a license at least six weeks beforehand. This does not take into account extra processing time needed for the local authorities to deal with the fact that one of the marriage partners has a different nationality. So, let’s say that we need twelve weeks for the whole marriage license (have not contacted local authoriites to confirm that yet).

We will not be leaving for the US halfway through 2012, as you may understand from this. The new hoped-for date will be somewhere in spring 2013, partially to give us some time to get used to the new country before grad school starts, and partially  due to the affidavit of support that the beloved needs to sign on my behalf, he needs to have employment for a certain time after repatriation.

With that new date, the timeline slowly gets a bit of shape:

3rd quarter 2013: Beloved kicks ass at grad school

2nd quarter 2013: migration

1st/2nd quarter: pack up

4th quarter 2012: start direct consular filing process (expected to take 4 months max, maybe only 10 weeks)

1st quarter 2012 start naturalization process

1st quarter 2012 get married

4th quarter 2011 obtain marriage license, pre-nup, etc.

2nd quarter 2011 moving in together.

1st quarter 2011 Halp! It goes fast! We have also contacted an expert on immigration an naturalization law with whom we’ll meet this week. We’re definitely at a point where some expert advice can save us hassle.


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